Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens
by Kim John Payne & Luis Fernando Llosa
Parenting | bullying | child development
PRICE: $17.95 US • $23.95 CAN
FORMAT: Paperback
ISBN: 978-161180-564-2
Shambhala Publications
Distributed by Penguin Random House
Essential reading for parents of grade schoolers through teens experiencing bullying, social exclusion, and teasing.
The tween and teen years are rife with intense social challenges in school, friendships, sport, and other activities where instances of teasing, bullying, social exclusion, and marginalization are unfortunately all too common. Social media has only made this behavior easier and more insidious. Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens gives parents vital, proactive strategies to help build strong family relationships that foster trust and connection so that kids can be better prepared for the inevitable social challenges that life brings.
Kim John Payne, a leading education consultant and parenting expert, and Luis Fernando Llosa, a writer and longtime sports coach, offer guidance and practical advice to parents, along with ten inspirational stories by young adults who have navigated bullying, teasing, and social exclusion—and triumphed.•
• BULLYING IS A PUBLIC HEALTH THREAT: One out of every five students report being bullied. Students who experience bullying are at increased risk for depression, anxiety, sleep difficulties, lower academic achievement, and dropping out of school.
• THE POWER OF SHARED EXPERIENCE: The stories provide kids with first-hand examples of peers who have struggled with bullying and have become significantly more resilient in their lives. In educational settings, Payne has found this kind of experience sharing to be very effective invalidating and empowering teens.
• PARENTS, TEENS, AND EDUCATORS LEARN CRITICAL ANTI-BULLYING SKILLS AND STRATEGIES, INCLUDING: How to figure out why you are being teased; how to handle rumors; how to deal with physical bullying; and much more.
• A PARENTING DILEMMA—DO WE STEP IN OR NOT? Parents feel a primal need to protect their child who is unhappy, hurt, or excluded. But parents run the risk of overreacting, getting overly involved, and embarrassing their child—and unintentionally block their child’s pathway to personal growth by attempting to solve their problems for them. The authors instead show parents how to stand behind and beside their child; so that in the end the child can say, “We figured this out and then I did it on my own!”
Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens is essential reading for parents and care-givers, educators, coaches, and anyone working teenagers.
ADVANCE PRAISE:
“In a world of hot tips and Instagram memes that go puddle deep, Kim John Payne and Luis Fernando Llosa have found a better way to help. Stories are how we learn best, and they don’t preach or patronize. This is a life-saving book to help kids rise above the put-down culture that modern life has become.”
—STEVE BIDDULPH, author of Raising Boys and Raising Girls
“With clear, hands-on tools fore both parents and kids, this book gives tweens and teens a chance to build resilience in the face of bullying and the skills they’ll need to believe in themselves and improve their lives going forward.”
—MITCH ABBLETT, Ph.D., author of Prizeworthy
“This book shows tweens and teens that if they’re being excluded or teased, they’re not alone; it then emboldens them with specific responses and strategies to impact their social dynamics. Payne and Llosa guide parents to be both a safe haven and a launching pad, so kids feel connected and confident to venture out to navigate the world.”
—TINA PAYNE BRYSON, LCSW, Ph.D., coauthor of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline
KIM JOHN PAYNE, M.ED., has been a counselor, educator, consultant, and researcher for over thirty years and is the author of several acclaimed books, including Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline, and Being at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst.
LUIS FERNANDO LLOSA is an award-winning Peruvian-American sportswriter, editor, speaker, investigative reporter, and youth sports consultant who has worked with kids and teens as a coach for twenty-five years. Llosa is the coauthor of Beyond Winning.